5 Tips For Building Unshakeable Confidence: From Someone Who Knows

5 Tips For Building Unshakeable Confidence

Hey you, Dr. Shaw here,  a life and relationship coach for women. And in today's blog, I'm sharing five tips to help you build unshakeable confidence. So let's talk.

How do you build unshakeable confidence? That is a question I get asked a lot, and it's one that I'm so passionate about, especially when it comes to helping women who experienced some sort of setback in life. See, confidence is one of the keys to living a happy and successful life.

Without confidence, we're held back by self-doubt and fear. We miss out on opportunities and memories because we're too afraid to take risks. But with confidence, we can achieve anything we set our minds to.

Confidence is one of the qualities that can take you from average to extraordinary. It's the difference between success and failure. It's what allows you to stand tall in the face of adversity and keep moving forward even when you feel like giving up.

And yet, for so many of us, confidence is something that remains out of reach. So if you're struggling to find confidence within yourself, here are five tips I hope you will use to help build your confidence.


Know that something inside you is greater than any obstacle you face. When you believe in who you are as a woman of faith, you walk in confidence because you understand your assignment.

You live out your days with purpose because you know that God has uniquely designed you for good works. You refuse to be silent about the things that matter because you have been called to speak up and be a light in this dark world.

When you believe in who you are as a woman of faith, you believe in your God-given purpose, and nothing or no one can take that from you because they didn't give it to you. 


Well, there's this gentleman by the name of mister Harvey, and he often says, fake it until you make it. But I'm sorry, I just have to tell you that instead, I live by the principle of faith it until you make it. Faith it until you make it.

Let me share something with you. I used to be so afraid of public speaking. Listen. I didn't wanna say anything if it was more than two people in the room. But I later learned a skill that's been helping me for years, and I teach it to others wherever I go.

It's called visualization. Yes, I like to sit down and visualize the outcome of anything and before I stand up and speak before a crowd, I sit down and visualize their thoughts.

Really? Not their faces but their thoughts. So when I write, I visualize how awesome the book will be to those it's intended to serve.

So when I sit down, I begin writing the prayer journal or anything that God has inspired me to do. I visualize the outcome. Yes. The outcome. I visualize people telling me how it blessed them and empowered them at a point where they may have felt like giving up. So don't fake it; faith it until you make it. 

As you can see, I have no problem standing up before an audience, no matter what size. Because I understand who is in me and who's working for me.


Comparison is the thief of joy. I don't know who said it, but comparison is the thief of joy. When you compare yourself to someone else. It normally leads to feelings of inadequacy and insecurity. So instead, focus on your own journey and celebrate your accomplishments. No matter how small they seem to be.

When I first began on social media, there were already so many people in the relationship space. But I knew that I had been called by God to share my personal story of overcoming an ungodly soul tie. And because I shared, I stepped out in faith and showed up as a deliciously bold woman of faith I am.

I began sharing my story about this ungodly dating relationship I was in and so women began connecting with me, and that's the thing about showing up as yourself. Your story will reach those who God has intended for it to reach. That's why it's important to focus on your own story because your story is unique.

It doesn't matter how similar it might be to the next person; it’s unique because you are unique. So remember, don't compare yourself to anyone else.


Before COVID hit, I was hosting the Soul of a Woman Symposium. And I would go to various states and invite other women to share with me and those in my community about things they had overcome as women of faith to inspire other women. Well, there was one young lady who had a powerful story. And I invited her to be on the platform with me to share her story.

Well, she came, and it was evident that she was a little nervous, but the thing that really stood out to me was that her husband came with her and was sitting in the front row. I looked out, and I saw him literally shrink in his seat.

I mean, he just shrank in his seat. So when the symposium was finished, I asked them, to the side after that, all the people left. So I pulled them two to the side and had a private conversation with them.

And I asked him why did he shrink in his seat? And he said because he was so nervous he didn't want her to make a mistake. So I told him, young man, don't do that again because your wife is depending on you. If anybody should be celebrating her, It's you. So the next opportunity she gets to do something like this, you clap for her. It doesn't matter if she says something wrong. You clap for her because people are watching you. because she is your wife.

So that's tip number four. Be your biggest fan. Use your big hands and clap. Say hoorah for yourself.

You did it. If it's your first time, you did it. Your fifth time, celebrate yourself. Be your biggest fan.


We all have them, and that's what makes us unique and interesting. Trying to be perfect is exhausting. and it's an unattainable goal. So accept yourself for who you are.Flaws and all. So embrace your uniqueness and let your true self shine through because the world needs what you have to offer, so offer it, and then double the price.

So let me recap the five tips for building unshakeable confidence:

1. Believe in yourself.

2. Faith It Until You Make It

3. Don't compare yourself to anyone.

4. Be your biggest fan.

5. Embrace those imperfections because we all have them.

That's what makes you you, and it's what makes you beautiful too.

So if this video has encouraged you in any way, do me a favor, give it a like, Share it with a friend or not, and leave a comment. Until next time,

Take care.