Do you feel like you're stuck in a cycle of pain and destruction?
Are you struggling with an unhealthy relationship?
In this blog, I'm sharing what a soul tie is, how it is formed, and how to set yourself free from the bondage of that person,
Hello there, Dr. Shaw here, and I know what it's like to be trapped in a cycle of pain and destruction. I've been there, done that, and got the T-shirt, but more importantly, I've learned how to break free from an ungodly soul tie and get in a position to receive the love God had for me from the man he designed for me and today, I’ll be sharing some steps you can use to start your journey to FREEDOM! So grab a cup of coffee or tea and let’s talk.
In 2016 I started traveling the country having The Soul of a Woman Symposium where I shared some of the information, I’m sharing with you today.
I wrote the book, Soul Ties Unchain My Heart back in 2016 to share my journey from being in an ungodly soul tie to becoming a soulmate.
The book starts out, “how did I get here, why can’t I shake this man? He treats me like less than a person, but I keep going back to him".
Why do I keep going back? That’s a question many women ask themselves when they are involved in an ungodly relationship and guess what? Many women today deal with ungodly soul ties and don’t know how to break free.
Romans 7:19:says, For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing NIV
Most of us want to do what is right, but when temptation stares us in the face it becomes a matter of who’s stronger? Our natural man or our spiritual man?
Often, it’s our flesh and that’s why I tell the story of a woman named Teresa and how she died to her flesh as the result of being in an ungodly soul tie.
What is a soul tie? Let me start by saying we are three-part beings.
BODY SOUL SPIRIT
THE SOUL CONSISTS OF OUR MIND – OUR WILL-AND OUR EMOTIONS and a soul tie can be either physical which is created as a result of sex or emotional which is created as a result of intimate conversations
WHY WOULD A WOMAN KEEP GOING BACK TO A MAN WHO DISRESPECTS HER?
Often, it’s because she has created a soul tie and does not know how to break free She tells herself it's just this once. That he's changed and he really loves her. But she knows that, deep down, this is a losing battle, but she can't help it.
She loves him. She's addicted to him. She's addicted to the chaos, drama, and feeling that she's needed. That she matters. Even if it's just for a little while. Even if it means getting her heartbroken over and over again.
HOW IS A SOUL TIE FORMED?
A soul tie usually starts as an emotional connection stemming from hours and hours of intimate conversations like sharing details about your life, your hopes, and your dreams with someone you believe is as vested in the relationship as much as you are.
These conversations go on for months and sometimes years and you begin opening your heart to this person because you believe he is the one and then the unthinkable happens.
Oooops there goes my shirt up over my head and then wham bam thank you, ma'am.
I understand you thought it was just a physical connection, a hookup, or a one-night stand, but it was more than that, it was a spiritual connection too!
1 Corinthians 6:16 says, “What, know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? For two, saith He shall be one flesh.”
Your bodies did not just collide physically, they collided spiritually as well because sex is not just a physical act that takes place with our bodies. It is a mental and spiritual act as well.
Look at the last part of the verse I just read, it says, “for two, saith He, shall be one flesh.”
What two? You and him? It didn’t say anything about husband and wife it said a harlot. In this verse, the word harlot is used to represent someone with a greedy spirit and the definition of greed is expressing excessive desire.
Now, where else do we read the words, become one? In the Bible? Let me tell you.
It’s found in Gen 2:24 one flesh, Matthew 9:5-6 one flesh, Ephesians 5:31, Mark 10:8, and Matthew 19;5 to name a few but these scriptures are referring to a husband and wife becoming one after marriage.
I’ll have to delve deeper into the Harlot spirit in another blog, but moving on.
When you have intercourse with someone to who you are not married you become one with that person and your mind begins relating the physical act of sex as love because our will and emotions are rooted in our mind.
Remember, I said we are three-part beings?
BODY SOUL SPIRIT
Our soul consists of our Will (the things I wish to do) Romans 7:19
Our Mind – (houses our thought life) and now that sexual act starts replaying in your mind and you start thinking about what he said and then your Emotions (fear, disgust, anger, surprise, happiness, and sadness) usually one or some of these kick in and then you become entangled like Jada said about her relationship with that young man
And every time you are physically intimate with him the soul tie gets stronger and stronger making it difficult to let go even though you want to. And then you become as I wrote in my book, “like a crack addict and you’ve got to have it”
WHY IS IT SO HARD TO BREAK FREE OF A SOUL TIE?
Breaking a soul tie is difficult because remember I said, we are three-part beings. BODY SOUL SPIRIT and I keep saying this because I want you to understand what’s happening
THE BODY SERVES THE SOUL
THE SOUL SERVES THE SPIRIT
AND THE SPIRIT SERVES GOD
If my mind tells me something was good to it then it wants my body to continue serving it that good thing.
HOW DO YOU BREAK FREE OF AN UNGODLY SOUL TIE?
That's a great question and in the next blog, I'm sharing three steps you can begin taking immediately to break free of an ungodly soul tie once and for all.